No offense?! Yes, really!!

[2dazed]

Unicron
[quote*]Or from the inside of a whiskey bottle
Or a Heineken! No, really. I accidentally offended someone on another site with a joke I posted. It was about the same gender that I'am, but someone got offended. I couldn't personally see why, but I did learn the importance of being careful what I post in the future. The member & I PM'ed each other, & I got to explain it away. But the whole thing made me realize that there are so many things in the world that offend us all, without us offending each other. I'm new here, but have learned how to speak fluent kindness. However, if I speak Heineken once or twice a year, I don't mean it.

Well, I screwed up that quote, didn't I?

[slammer_JvA]

quoting: 2dazed link=board=27;threadid=11108;start=45#msg141529 date=1078795053]
Unicron
[quote*]Or from the inside of a whiskey bottle
Or a Heineken!
However, if I speak Heineken once or twice a year, I don't mean it.

Hmm....dunno what you mean with it -talking about confusion - but I'd rather DRINK Heineken than 'speak' it!
And definitely more than once or twice a year

WELCOME to Wilders, 2dazed
slammer

[2dazed]

Thanks Slammer!

[P.T.]

quoting: 2dazed link=board=27;threadid=11108;start=45#msg141529 date=1078795053]
. I'm new here, but have learned how to speak fluent kindness.
Well, I screwed up that quote, didn't I?

Nope, I couldn't have said it better. And, that is so true. You're one of the nicest people I know.

[dom424]

I do not post much. Got to say this is an excellent thread.

[bigc73542]

Unfortunatly we all will at some time hurt someones feelings with a joke or a phrase that is harmless to us but hurtful to another, But at least at wilders we do try to understand the intent of a joke or a saying or such. There are so many people from so many countries from around the world that just the language barrier is mind boggling. What I am trying to say is welcome to Wilders and that we take that extra step to understand so joke away, we all need a good laugh now and again


curt
bigc73542

[BlkKat]

LOL, leave it to me to be the one who comes along 6 months later and starts it all over again.I just wanted to say LWM that as a newbie here I am grateful for the atmospere. It's nice to find a place where people can ask questions without being made to feel shame or embarrassment.I think that alot of the time if people would just ask someone for clarification it would prevent alot of leg lifting and hurt feeling's.I look forward to posting here.What a great bunch of folks there are here.

Awww, I love you guys. Why didn't I know all this was being said? Don't you email one of those thingys? You know, 'someone has replied to your post....etc etc'.

[sticky note]

Hi everyone Im as Green as Green gets when it comes to forums,but I became a member here because I read the forums for a few days before I joined and It seemed to me that people here were very helpful to the Green-Horn and belive you me thats what I need is help,more often than not.But please keep in mind that I am learning the in's and out's of the forums here and if I say something thats not quite right please feel free to correct me,because I mean no disrespect.One more thing while Im here can anyone tell me how to add one of those animations next to my name??Thanks Sticky note..

[nadirah]

Well, this is an excellent thread by LWM, not everybody is so understanding and friendly. And, the best solution to all this is to be friendly, don't post/talk in an angry/violent manner. It's better to be happy than being angry, and better to be more polite than being rude, and better to do good deeds than being bad and doing wicked deeds, better to be friends than be enemies.

[slammer_JvA]

Originally Posted by bigc73542

What I am trying to say is welcome to Wilders and that we take that extra step to understand so joke away, we all need a good laugh now and again


curt
bigc73542

...and don't you (of all people) just love to make them, over and over again? warm greetings from a friend overseas.
Keep them coming-keep up the good work, bigc!

regards,
slam


a smile a day keeps the doctor away

[bigc73542]

Life is to short not to joke about it everyonce in a while. No jokes make you old.

[gerardwil]

evolution

[ronjor]

Originally Posted by gerardwil

evolution

So true!

[slammer_JvA]

Originally Posted by gerardwil

evolution

F a n t a s t i c image, Gerard!

[GlobalForce]

It's best not to assume

As LWM has pointed out, this can have you tasting your foot real fast. DO NOT release in haste the arrow which can "Never Return". A little thought and composure go's a long way, especially when it's a written thought...

[nadirah]

A funny post by gerard there!
So mankind evolved from apes to humans at the computers!

[Rita]

Originally Posted by LowWaterMark

Have you ever noticed how easy it is to offend someone else online?

Sometimes you are posting along having a great day and suddenly, out of no where, you get a reply to a post that tells you quite bluntly that you've just insulted another person. A short time later the thread has gone off-track and people are flaming each other, and then in steps a Moderator who ends up closing the thread and everyone is angry - mostly at you.

Or, perhaps you've been on the other side on this situation. There you are trying to be helpful, posting your heart out when suddenly, for no apparent reason, someone makes a reply that appears to be down right rude and offensive, and it is aimed directly at you.

If you haven't seen this or been involved in at least one of these situations yourself, then you probably haven't been posting very long, or perhaps you aren't posting in any controversial topics or places.

I'm bringing this up for a couple reasons...

First, to remind everyone that it is very easy to misunderstand what someone intends to say in a written post. It is much harder to be clearly and consistently understood in just a few written sentences then it is when you are speaking with someone face to face.

Second, we all need to remember that the Internet spans around the world, and International Forums such as Wilders Security have quite a diverse group of participants. While Wilders is mostly an English language forum, (the main exception being the LnS French forum section), over half the people here do not have English as their primary language.

Think about that and its implications. Try to imagine just how much translating is being done here and how people of different languages, cultures and backgrounds can so easily misunderstand what is written in a post. Imagine times when even a simple joke, which would be funny to people with similar backgrounds, causes insult to someone who has a completely different frame of reference.

We all need to be mindful of this and try to use extra care in writing our posts, while also giving the benefit of the doubt to others, when reading what has been posted. It's best not to assume an insult and react to it when what was intended could be totally innocent.

Of course, there really are people who simply intend to insult others and disrupt a forum. Their only purpose being to cause trouble and attempt to insight flame wars. Sometimes they post inflammatory remarks against individuals, or certain vendors or products, just so they can get other people to post flaming comments back at them. (We usually refer to these people as Trolls. Hence the expression "Please don't feed the trolls." )

Remember, there really is no good reason, nor any benefit to you or your overall well being, to take offense from things that are written online. If we all use a little care in choosing how we word our posts, and if we are generous in how we interpret what others post, then we'll all have a lot more fun (and a lot less stress) online.

Right on friend!!!
Rita

[Paul Masley]

Well, I just could not resist.

Being a new member, this thread sat for over two months without a reply, so I just had to do it.

Do I get "Red Cheeks" for it...........

[snowbound]

Originally Posted by Paul Masley

Well, I just could not resist.

Do I get "Red Cheeks" for it...........

How about a welcome instead!

Hope u enjoy your stay.


snowbound

[Rita]

welcome Paul Masley
rita

[Paul Masley]

Thank you very much. I was a "lurker" for a while and then thought, Well why not join.

I have picked up quite a few hints while here and decided to share a few of mine when I could.

[bigc73542]

Paul I do hope that you enjoy your self here as a member. I will keep an eye out for your post's.

bigc

[slammer_JvA]

Just thought this was the right spot to post the comment Ronjor adds to his postings, overhere:

Choose being kind over being right, and you'll be right everytime.

Hope you don't mind, Ron. I like it a lot.

regards,
slammer

[gerardwil]

Yep a very good one and some more you will find here:

http://www.quotemeonit.com/kindness.html

Gerard