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[Jimbob1989]

Recently, I have told some of you of my somewhat colourfull past

In approximately one week, I am going to take another online indentity, using new email address' and forum user names. I will be using a different IP address and my identity will be secure.

The reason for me doing this is because, I want a new start. I don't want to be remembered for my previous mistakes, some of which I have not even told you guys about.

If there is anyone who would like to say goodbye, or would like me to add them to my new identity, please pm me, or post here.

Jimbob :'(

[Pilli]

Hi Jimbob, Good luck with your new identity, shame about this one :P

Pilli ;)

[Terryala]

Change is good. Do what is best for you and don't look back.

Grand Dad

[dog]

You can't keep running forever.

But that's your choice ... Good luck with your next creation.

So long. ;)

[GlobalForce]

So, you like to ride the waves of your own turbulence.........?

Remember JB.......for most of us, our opinion of ourselves is like that of a shadow....."it is either too big, or too small" ;) Change is good.......remain flexible. :)

GF

[no13]

And try to be like water...
that never remains rooted
that never stops
that is shapeless
and that is forceful
G'luck m8.
regards.
no13.

[Acadia]

Jimbob,

(Keeping in mind that everything you are about to hear is MY opinion, and I've been known to be wrong lots of times):

Are you willing to hear the truth? Don’t say "Yes" lightly, make it sincere. I believe you CRAVE ATTENTION in the worst way. Whether you did not get enough attention from your mother, or been rejected by girls you had crushes on, or whoever at this point is probably irrelevant. Trying to grab attention at Internet forums can be annoying and can get people booted out, is this what has happened to you at other forums?

This probably would never happen to anyone at Wilders, folks here are too tolerant and loving and I am constantly learning about those beautiful traits from the beautiful folks here, and many times it humbles me and makes me wish I was more like them. If I am right about any of this, and that’s a BIG if, may I suggest trying to become interested in others instead of trying to make others interested in you. Hope my words were not too harsh but sometimes the truth hurts and THAT’s when real and true growth can begin. Hearing the truth, if that's what I just vomited out, can be the best kind of pain and beautiful things can come from it, believe me, I’ve been there.

Acadia

[slammer_JvA]

-{ Quote: "Jimbob,

(Keeping in mind that everything you are about to hear is MY opinion, and I've been known to be wrong lots of times):

Are you willing to hear the truth? Don’t say "Yes" lightly, make it sincere. I believe you CRAVE ATTENTION in the worst way. Whether you did not get enough attention from you mother, or been rejected by girls you had crushes on, or whoever at this point is probably irrelevant. Trying to grab attention at Internet forums can be annoying and can get people booted out, is this what has happened to you at other forums?

This probably would never happen to anyone at Wilders, folks here are too tolerant and loving and I am constantly learning about those beautiful traits from the beautiful folks here, and many times it humbles me and makes me wish I was more like them. If I am right about any of this, and that’s a BIG if, may I suggest trying to become interested in others instead of trying to make others interested in you. Hope my words were not too harsh but sometimes the truth hurts and THAT’s when real and true growth can begin. Hearing the truth, if that's what I just vomited out, can be the best kind of pain and beautiful things can come from it, believe me, I’ve been there.

Acadia" }-
Been there too, and I have to second this brave posting from Acadia.
No offense, Jimbob (or anyone else) but there's lots of wisdom in above words....read them carefully before reacting. Well, I did...;)

regards,
slam

[new girl]

-{ Quote: "Jimbob,

(Keeping in mind that everything you are about to hear is MY opinion, and I've been known to be wrong lots of times):

Are you willing to hear the truth? Don’t say "Yes" lightly, make it sincere. I believe you CRAVE ATTENTION in the worst way. Whether you did not get enough attention from you mother, or been rejected by girls you had crushes on, or whoever at this point is probably irrelevant. Trying to grab attention at Internet forums can be annoying and can get people booted out, is this what has happened to you at other forums?

This probably would never happen to anyone at Wilders, folks here are too tolerant and loving and I am constantly learning about those beautiful traits from the beautiful folks here, and many times it humbles me and makes me wish I was more like them. If I am right about any of this, and that’s a BIG if, may I suggest trying to become interested in others instead of trying to make others interested in you. Hope my words were not too harsh but sometimes the truth hurts and THAT’s when real and true growth can begin. Hearing the truth, if that's what I just vomited out, can be the best kind of pain and beautiful things can come from it, believe me, I’ve been there.

Acadia" }-


Acadia:

You have written some wise words and very good advice! Keep in mind, though, this is a very inexperienced young man and yes, he is craving attention but in my view he is attempting to do it in a positive manner as opposed to acting out in a negative manner and who better to do this with than smart and caring people such as yourself and the other wonderful members of this forum. I hope he will take your suggestion and find a happy medium between getting the positive attention he needs while at the same time learning how to share the limelight by giving others their due attention to.

Jimbob:
Good luck to you with your new start. I am sure along with changing your nickname you are also working on changing the behavior that caused you the problems necessitating you taking this step. Growth in any area, Jimbob, is a very good thing! ;)

[Galcoolest]

Good luck, JB.

As you know, I tried to help you and wrote you privately about how I can relate to some of things you're going through and offered what advice I could. I was saddened that you became defensive and told me to get lost, but that's okay, I am a big girl and did my best, and realize you are at an age that was tough for all of us.

Try to take Acadia's words to heart- he means them empathetically- he understands, as do a lot of us.

I've been laid up at home recently and have been posting probably more than I should (getting pesky), so I listened to Acadia's advice and thought about how it applies to me, too! Being stuck alone all day has caused me to crave attention and interaction with others, but there's a point at which it's going to get annoying. So don't feel scapegoated by any means, lots of folks need to evaluate their actions in the light of day, and the goal is to just to improve as best you can.

Onward and upward!

[slammer_JvA]

-{ Quote: "...
Onward and upward!" }-Dear Galcoolest,
Having read some of your postings I have to compliment you with your style, wisdom and the respect you're showing to others (and life in general).
I enjoy reading these.

Therefore I'd like to reward you with a karma-cookie* :)
Welcome to Wilders!
It suits you.

(*For old-time sake!!! Try figure that one out; you're smart enough for it by my guess ;) )

[applause]
slam8)

[bigbuck]

Righto!
Here are some suggested aliases for you to think about.
They should ensure total anonymity:
Jamesrobert 1989 ;D
JR1989 ;D ;D
Bobjim1989 ;D ;D ;D
Thisisdefinitelynotjimbob1989 ;D ;D ;D ;D
Seriously...keep in touch.
Buck.

[Cochise]

I'm afraid that, at the end of the day Jim, your stuck with that dreaded disease called 'Puberty'.....and there isn't a cure yet.....It's were your Hormones shake a 'Double six' and decide to go off and do their own thing, and what makes it worse, they don't listen to reason, there's nothing you can do about, just do your best to live through it, then one day you will look back on it as a bad dream.....if your lucky.... ;D.........You are NOT unique...we know, we've been there, all of us, (Of a certain age which shall not be revealed) ;D ......at least you can get help...nobody knew what the Hell was wrong with us when we went off Screaming into the night.. ;D ;D ;D.

Live with it, you'll survive, believe me, Life really isn't that difficult, RELAX, stop trying to hard.....be a kid and do kid things.........Your life will whizz by in a flash soon enough if you don't keep an eye on it, hang on as long as possible to every day, don't let time slip through your fingers, take my word for it, you will need every second quicker than you think, just enjoy what you have and who you are.......



Cochise, 8)

[Acadia]

-{ Quote: "RELAX, stop trying to hard..." }-

Best words of advice in this whole thread. If only I had heeded such advice in my twenties ... and thirties ... and forties ... and ... :-\

Acadia

[Galcoolest]

-{ Quote: "Dear Galcoolest,
Having read some of your postings I have to compliment you with your style, wisdom and the respect you're showing to others (and life in general).
I enjoy reading these.

Therefore I'd like to reward you with a karma-cookie* :)
Welcome to Wilders!
It suits you.

(*For old-time sake!!! Try figure that one out; you're smart enough for it by my guess ;) )

[applause]
slam8)" }-


Slam,

Thanks for the very kind and much appreciated words...

Now, let's see if I can get this right-

In the old days I was baking a lot of delicious karma cookies, but the late 20th century's pressures got to me for a bloody long while, and I got so disorganized I misplaced the recipe.

Luckily, after going through all the sorts of crap like our pal JB is now experiencing, and getting through the other hassles of my 20's and 30's, I finally slowed down and made time to do a thorough cleaning of the house, and relocated the recipe! Some of the ingredients are no longer available, it seems, but I'm working on improvising with it so they come out as tasty as they used to be! Thanks for sharing one of yours! (Can I cop your recipe sometime?) ;D

[Cochise]

We used to have this fantastic Griddle that turned Karma Cookies out by the ton.....then Whooosh....it had gone and left us all Cookiless.....I miss them damn Cookies.....but maybe it's a good thing.....just maybe we are all 'Cookie' enough..... ;D ;D



CoCookiechise, 8)

[Blackspear]

Jimbob, the very best advice I can give you is to get out and join a few of your passions, join anything from a Chess Club to a Rock Climbing Club and excel in it. If you haven't tried any of these things, just join up until you find one that becomes a passion. This will bring you into contact with live people that will in turn bring friendship and expand your life experiences beyond your computer... In time it will give you a good grounding in life...

I wish you all the very best...

Cheers ;D

[Galcoolest]

Hey CoCookie-


Did you mean "cooked" enough? I actually think one must stay cooked on the cookies once she gets her hands on them... or else will be likely to go for getting cooked on drugs and booze, an all too common subsitutionary move around these parts....

[Primrose]

New starts are good. But not on the Internert. You have produced some interesting threads. Some fact mixed with fiction ;) and turmoil. You seem to have a desire to just be YOU. No matter what nick you pick or IP you poroxy what you say or do will still be you. Here at Wilders you have developed friendships. I have seen many people post, who then in a brighter day determined they wished they had not. When they handed me an orange here at Wilders....

http://www.wilderssecurity.com/showthread.php?t=55149&highlight=Primrose

I posted this..

"Oh, the comfort, the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person; having neither to weigh thoughts nor to measure words but to pour them all out, just as it is, chaff and grain together, knowing that a faithful hand will take and sift them, keeping what is worth keeping, and then, with the breath of kindness, blow the rest away."George Elliot

I trust you will find what you seek.

[Cochise]

-{ Quote: "Hey CoCookie-


Did you mean "cooked" enough? I actually think one must stay cooked on the cookies once she gets her hands on them... or else will be likely to go for getting cooked on drugs and booze, an all too common subsitutionary move around these parts...." }-


Nope Galcoolest, by 'Cookie' I meant 'Odd', 'Strange', 'Happily Not always Home', 'Slightly off the Wall' ;D etc., but GREAT company and a pleasure to be with and a part of....In a word, my kind of people.....
The way I look at things is, you don't need something Serious to kill you, you just need to be too serious......... ;D ;D ;D

Regards,

Cochise, 8)

[Galcoolest]

"The way I look at things is, you don't need something Serious to kill you, you just need to be too serious......... "

Okay explain those words of yours to me, too--I must be thick or starting to get some of the Florida idiocy moving in by osmosis or something....

[bigc73542]

Jimbob1989. a fresh start is sometimes a good thing, just don't let the real you get lost in all the different id's

good luck

bigc

[Acadia]

-{ Quote: " a fresh start is sometimes a good thing, " }-

… and make that "fresh start" sincere and honest, not yet another excuse to force a new crowd of folks to become interested in you

Again, good luck (and that IS sincere)
Acadia :)

[puff-m-d]

-{ Quote: "a fresh start is sometimes a good thing, just don't let the real you get lost in all the different id's" }- Good words there Curt.

I think that one of the hardest things to do in life is to realize that you can not escape from the past. It would be great if you could just start fresh today as a completely new identity, but that is hard, if not impossible to do. I, like a lot of others, have done things in my past that I am not proud of today, things that I really wish others did not know about. But they do or eventually do if I let them into my life. The wisdom of it all, for me at least, is being able to take these bad things from the past, look at them and learn from them. This will help us make changes in ourselves for the better. It is kind of like the saying "making good out of bad". I am one with the philosophy in life that all happens for a purpose. Our task is not to try to figure out why it happened but learn from it, turn it into a good thing. After all, our past is what has made and shaped us into who we are today. If we look at the past as bad, it will have a negative impact on us today. Our past can be bad, but we can grow and learn from that to be a better person now and in the future. The people around me know where I have been and how I have used these bad experiences in the past to make me a better person today. So today, I would not go back and change anything that at the time I thought was bad, because they have made me who I am now.

I guess what I am basically trying to say is this, do not run from the past or let it haunt you. It may be difficult now, but confront the past, learn from it, and use it to grow and become a better person. Turn the negative into something positive.

I hope somebody out there can understand my ramblings. Better stop before I lose everybody ;) ....

[Primrose]

-{ Quote: "We used to have this fantastic Griddle that turned Karma Cookies out by the ton.....then Whooosh....it had gone and left us all Cookiless.....I miss them damn Cookies.....but maybe it's a good thing.....just maybe we are all 'Cookie' enough..... ;D ;D



CoCookiechise, 8)" }-

Don't be feeding Paint any of those biccy's...he will get sea sick. ;)


Put away the cake. Pass the spinach. Popeye celebrates his 75th birthday this year, animated evidence that a steady diet of leafy green vegetables and pipe smoking can guarantee you Hulk Hogan forearms as a septuagenarian.

http://www.charlotte.com/mld/charlotte/entertainment/horoscopes/10174749.htm?1c

"I yam what I yam and that's all I yam." -- Popeye the Sailor

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Popeye

"I would gladly pay you Tuesday
for a Hamburger today."

http://www.popeye-n-olive.com/wimpy.htm

***************************
@ Jimbob

Since you know where to find the entire cast at Wilders Security Forum after you bury the Jimbob1989 I leave you with this L'envoi.


J. WELLINGTON WIMPY'S
APOSTROPHE TO A DESERT DAISY
http://www.popeye-n-olive.com/wimpy.htm

[iceni60]

Jimbob, good luck. but, i dont feel you need to make a new start, not in the sense you described. maybe theres some things you want to, and will, change to better yourself, which will be good. but, you shouldnt feel you need to change your online identity.

if you go over and analyse things you've posted they'll seem far worse then they really are. also, incase you didnt know, most people here are alot older then you, almost all teenagers would, and do, stand out here just because of the age difference and quite right too. so, what ever you do just remember theres an edit button; if you dont like what you posted use it 8)

[puff-m-d]

-{ Quote: "so, what ever you do just remember theres an edit button; if you dont like what you posted use it 8)" }-And if you wait to long to edit or delete your post, just PM a mod and we will see what we can do about it ;) ...

[Galcoolest]

Here I go, the yakker extraordinaire lately- and brand new to this forum- but I want to support yet again what so many have voiced insofar as we can offer JB what we might have to say:

1) Young folks are going to go through magnification of emotions and reactions to what they witness around them (over amp and get bent out of shape easily and take things more personally or reflective of THEIR worth than is really necessary), and that's just part of growing up and gaining life experience/wisdom.

2) In time you generally realize, if you stay halfway sane, that you cannot and yet also do not want to deny, forget or feel shame about stuff you did or felt on the way to becoming more grounded as a person- it will prove to be your source of insight, those rough spots. (And to tell the truth, the older you get, the more you see your human tendency to make mistakes is never going to just stop- but you just get more able to spot them, forgive yourself and learn quicker from them, I think).

3) And this is something I feel I tried to stress to JB and want to emphasize again- a young man who is so forthcoming about his feelings, doubts, wishes, concern for doing good, etc. iis a person on the right avenue- and at the correct bus stop, but the bus maybe isn't always there right when he wants it to be, and it may start raining like hell when he's tryng to be patient, but at least he's at the bloody bus stop instead of wandering around looking for it still.

4) That JB's at the bus stop is very good, but he needs also to be able to ask the driver once boarding where exactly his stop puts him in relation to the address he's headed to, since he's unsure of that yet. This is a metaphor for reaching out PERSONALLY to other people in this life. Get out and hang with more kids, JB. The illusory social benefit of banter online is understood by your elders to be what it is, entertainment and intellectual stimulation, but no real substitute for real-life interactions with others, especially at your age. You cannot get the street numbers on the busline map. They're not there. You gotta talk to someone who's right there to find out.

Godspeed to JB, and to those who have put up with the Gal's pervasive ramblings of the past week. I'm glad we all had a chance, though, to reflect on what's been brought up by JB as of late.

[Marja]

JimmyBoo,

You can run, but, you can't hide - from yourself. Sooner or later, you will run smack into yourself -at least here you have been adopted - people care about you - now care about them, learn from them! What you got will pass, really it will! It's just hard to step back to really look at your life objectively, but, WE can!;D

Besides, I will TRACK you down, boy - then you will be grounded for -A VE-RY VERY LOOONG time!! Y'hear me?!! You keep in touch with your friends here!

:lurking:Marja8)
(in MOM+ MODE)

[Jimbob1989]

If you would like to stay in touch, pm me or post here.

Jimbob

[Terryala]

As I said in my last post change is good. I'm 70 years old and I'm still finding that to be true. Like Galcoolest I have been home recovering::: from the big one.

But I think if you take the time to read what has been posted here by all you will learn alot about yourself and the people here who care.If: is the big question we all face when we are young saddly it is a fact of life. I look back and ask If I had done it this way or that what would life be like now for me and family. No ones knows what the future holds for us all we try to do is learn from our mistakes and go on.

Listen to the Elders and what they have to say as most have been there.

Enough of my thoughts for now.

Grand Dad

[Jimbob1989]

I'm staying as I am, Jimbob1989 lives on. I have been doing a lot of thinking recently and I decided, I can't run away for ever.

Thanks Marja (Mom (2))

Jimbob

[Marja]

People DO know, you are only as bad as you want to be! Nothing is set in stone - everyday is a chance for change - it's up to you - no one can do it for you.

Be Still, Listen to your heart, not others' words!?! Wish we could get you to see the light that is at the end of your tunnel, JimmyBoo!

Take care,

Marja8)

[Cochise]

-{ Quote: "People DO know, you are only as bad as you want to be! Nothing is set in stone - everyday is a chance for change - it's up to you - no one can do it for you.

Be Still, Listen to your heart, not others' words!?! Wish we could get you to see the light that is at the end of your tunnel, JimmyBoo!

Take care,

Marja8)" }-


The trouble with the light at the end of the Tunnel, can quite often be a Train coming the other way..........


Byeee! Cochise, :-X :-*